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What is spirituality, really? And what does it bring to your life?

Parinaz Shams| Spiritual Life Coach| Embrace Your Essence Retreats


Spirituality is a term that is thrown around a lot in modern culture.


It's a term that is often misunderstood or overlooked, but it can have a profound impact on our lives if we allow it to. So what is spirituality, and what can it bring to your life?


First, let's talk about what spirituality definitely is NOT.

  • It's not reserved for people who are already "chill" and living non-stressful lives.

This is a common thing I hear from people, "I'm too Type-A for spirituality" or, "I'll meditate when I retire and have more time to be calm."

  • It's not about dressing, speaking, or looking a certain way. It doesn't matter if you wear yoga clothes or how much they cost.


  • It's not about never having any worries and being able to stop your thoughts or emotions. I hear a lot of people say, "I can't meditate because I can't get my thoughts to stop."

So now that we know a bit of what it's not about, what is spirituality good for?


Spirituality is the connection that you have with yourself,

first and foremost.


It is the path to building a connection with ALL of yourself, your body, mind, and spirit. This is what I call your Complete Self™.


It also means connecting with and learning to embrace your essence.


Your essence is the part of you the lives beyond the scripts and expectations set forth by your family. It's not your age, gender, name, or the metrics of success you've been able to check off. It's the depths of you who are on your terms.


When you build this powerful connection to your Complete Self and when you understand the power of your essence, you understand and accept the deeper meaning of life and your place in it.


Spirituality is not necessarily a religious practice, although it can be. It's more about finding a sense of purpose, peace, and fulfillment that goes beyond the physical and material world.


For many people, spirituality is a powerful tool for healing and self-discovery.


Take the story of a client of mine, who I will call Jane.


Jane thought she had moved on from the pain of her mother's abandonment. She had worked hard to become a functional adult and put the past behind her.


However, as she delved into her spiritual practice, she realized that she had been carrying around a lot of anger and hurt that she had never truly dealt with.


Traditional therapy had helped her to a certain extent, but it was only through spiritual work that she was able to confront and heal the deep wounds that she had been carrying for so long.


Spirituality gave her the tools to connect with her true self and the world around her, allowing her to find the peace and resolution that she had been searching for.


Through yoga, meditation, and Persian spiritual guidance, Jane was able to let go of the anger and resentment that she had been carrying for so long.


She was able to find a sense of connection and purpose that went beyond the material world.


This work transformed her life, and she was able to move beyond her past and embrace the future with a renewed sense of hope and optimism.


Today, Jane is working at what she calls her "dream job" and she re-enrolled in school to get the degree she really wanted years ago. She stopped telling herself what was no longer possible based on her age or choices she had made and instead started opening herself to infinite possibilities of life.


She was able to do all of this because she found courage within herself through healing tools and she found inner strength from knowing her essence.


Spirituality is not a quick fix, and it's not something that can be achieved overnight. It requires dedication and commitment, but the rewards are immeasurable.


Through spiritual work, we can find the connection and peace that we all crave, and we can learn to let go of the things that hold us back.


If you're looking to connect with your essence AKA your True Self and find a deeper sense of meaning and purpose in your life, consider exploring the spiritual healing path because it may just be the transformation that you've been searching for.


Spirituality is a powerful tool for self-healing and self-discovery, it is the path to finding personal liberation and fulfillment.


Here are some tips on where to start.

  1. Start a meditation practice: Meditation is a powerful tool for calming the mind and reducing stress and anxiety. By practicing meditation regularly, you can alleviate the deeply held and repressed subconscious blocks from past wounds. Start with just a few minutes a day and gradually increase the length of your practice.

  2. Practice yoga: Yoga is a physical practice that can help to calm your nervous system and alleviate the physical symptoms of pain, illness, and aging from the stored trauma. Yoga is a great way to connect with your body and release any physical tension that you may be holding onto.

  3. Work with a mentor: Working with a mentor can help you to customize your spiritual practice to your specific life and challenges. A mentor can guide you on your path and offer support and encouragement along the way. They can help you to identify any blocks that may be holding you back and help you to find the path forward that is right for you.

  4. Connect with nature: Spending time in nature can be a powerful spiritual practice. Whether it's taking a walk in the park or spending time in the mountains, connecting with nature can help us to feel more grounded, centered, and connected to the world around us.

  5. Get curious about your existence: Starting to ask your inner self with compassionate honesty questions like, "Do I like who I am, really?" "What's possible for me if I learn to love myself fully?" "What do I desire in my heart?" has led to immeasurable growth for me personally and for my clients. Get started now.

  6. Ditch the Scripts: We've all been handed scripts in life from our upbringing. Whether it was your parents, culture, religion, or society, you have been influenced by the preset ideas of success and who you "should" become to be deemed worthy of it. It takes courage to stop living by scripts and to start embracing what lives at your essence, but it is the most powerful work you can do for yourself.


Get started with a free, guided Tantra Meditation that will help you open your heart and release your barriers to living as your True Self.



In summary, spirituality can bring a sense of peace, purpose, and fulfillment to our lives.


By starting a meditation practice, practicing yoga, working with a mentor, connecting with nature, getting curious, and having the courage to ditch the script, you can begin to unlock the power of spirituality in your life.


Remember, the path to spirituality is unique to each of us, so be patient, stay curious, and enjoy the journey.


If you're interested in learning how Embrace Your Essence Spiritual Life Coaching can help you start this journey, schedule a complimentary 30-minute clarity call.


These calls are a no-obligation (you don't pay for it and you won't be pressured into buying anything on the call) opportunity for you to get clear on what is blocking YOU from living as your essence and start to develop a path forward toward it.


You will walk away with a clear understanding of your next steps toward a life that ultimately free and fulfilling personally and professionally.






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